Hey guys, nice to see you here! Just thought I would drop a quick note about what is going on with my world lately, which is challenging but not necessarily negative.
As of February 1st, we are going to have roommates again. WonderWife's uncle and his parter will be living with us until further notice. I haven't received info on when they plan to get out on their own again, but I know that this arrangement is to help us all financially.
I have a lot of mixed feelings about this, most of which I have already discussed with everyone and their dog, but they are still there. Our house is pretty big for the three of us who already live there (me, WW, and the Munchkin) but to add two fully grown guys to that living sitruation, I am definitely concerned that it is going to be squishy. Maybe I'm overexaggerating, but the concern remains. We have taken steps to avoid this as much as possible by having the guys take over half of the basement as their bedroom/living area, which will help keep us separated more, and ensure that we have our own separate "personal spaces" which I think will help a lot.
Our fridge is tiny. When I say tiny, I mean that we can't fit all of the produce that we eat in a week into the produce drawers in our fridge because they are TINY. Which means that we will likely need to buy a second fridge, which further contributes to the space concern. I'm sure we will find a good spot for it, but until we do, these thoughts plague me.
A lot of the concerns and anxieties I have about this huge change will probably resolve themselves after they move in and we figure out our routine and how we all fit together. I know this, and I am trying to relax and accept that things are going to change, but that it doesn't necessarily mean that they will change for the worse.
If you're anyone in my family reading this, especially if you are one of the people involved, don't take this as a "I don't want you to live with us" post. Because that isn't what it is. It's just a ramble about my insecurities and my anxieties relating to the fact that I don't like change, I don't like things changing, and I don't like losing space that is mine (even if it's just in my head). These are my own personal issues, and they shouldn't affect you because I do love you and I do enjoy spending time with you. I know we will figure everything out, I just worry in the interim.
Anyone else out there, do you have ideas for how to make coexistance with your family easier for someone with my magnitude of issue? I would appreciate any insight.
As always,
Peace, love, and love life.
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Thursday, January 24, 2013
Wednesday, January 2, 2013
The Importance of Setting Goals and... my 2013 resolutions!
New Year's resolutions are known far and wide as "goals for the first week of January" which then get thrown out the window.
Setting goals for yourself is a very important part of productive and satisfying living, yet countless people set goals for themselves that they never actually acheive, or they give up after a very brief time.
Why is that? First and most important reason: You set your goals too high, too hard, or too little gratification.
Humans as a whole love instant gratification. Being able to feel at least a piece of success NOW is essential to our wanting to continue working towards that goal. By setting a goal that has no short-term or instant gratification, you are setting yourself up to give up on yourself.
How do we avoid that?
Set smaller goals. Be realistic.
If your goal is to get healthy, quantify that. Do you want to (eventually) lose 5, 10, 15 pounds? Or is it that you want to fit into a size 8, 10, 14? Or maybe even be able to do 50 sit ups, pushups, squats, etc in a row?
Set a big goal, such as: By December 31, 2013, I want to lose 20 pounds and/or fit into a size 10, and/or be able to do 100 pushups in a row.
Then, set smaller, monthly goals. Such as: I want to lose 3 pounds in January.
Then think about what you have to do to acheive the smaller goal. If monthly goals are still too big for you, or you want something a little closer, think instead of time-based goals.
Example: I want to exercise for one hour each week (great starting point for the inactive person).
Then, each day that you do even five minutes of exercise, track it. By the end of the week, you add it all up. Each week you set a new goal. Maybe it'll be the same goal repeated, maybe you'll up the ante a bit. But don't overreach yourself.
You are worth the effort it takes to acheive your goals.
With all of that out of the way, here are my goals for 2013:
1. Fit back into a size 8 and be healthy about it.
a. Work out at least two hours each week
b. Stop eating so much junk food. Eat fruits and vegetables instead.
2. Pay off the car loan.
a. Find my cheques
b. Stay within budget
c. Track spending and budget
3. Write more
a. Edit my NaNoWriMo2012 novel to readability and have people read it.
b. Continue working on the first draft of my other novel
c. Add new content to this blog and to my Helium.com profile every week.
4. Finish 3 of my university courses
a. one at a time, starting with Introductory Composition
That's all for now, folks! If you have any tips or tricks to making and sticking with goals, share them below! Also, if you have made any resolutions this year, share them and join the conversation.
Be honest with yourself, and believe in yourself.
Peace, love, and everlasting happiness.
Setting goals for yourself is a very important part of productive and satisfying living, yet countless people set goals for themselves that they never actually acheive, or they give up after a very brief time.
Why is that? First and most important reason: You set your goals too high, too hard, or too little gratification.
Humans as a whole love instant gratification. Being able to feel at least a piece of success NOW is essential to our wanting to continue working towards that goal. By setting a goal that has no short-term or instant gratification, you are setting yourself up to give up on yourself.
How do we avoid that?
Set smaller goals. Be realistic.
If your goal is to get healthy, quantify that. Do you want to (eventually) lose 5, 10, 15 pounds? Or is it that you want to fit into a size 8, 10, 14? Or maybe even be able to do 50 sit ups, pushups, squats, etc in a row?
Set a big goal, such as: By December 31, 2013, I want to lose 20 pounds and/or fit into a size 10, and/or be able to do 100 pushups in a row.
Then, set smaller, monthly goals. Such as: I want to lose 3 pounds in January.
Then think about what you have to do to acheive the smaller goal. If monthly goals are still too big for you, or you want something a little closer, think instead of time-based goals.
Example: I want to exercise for one hour each week (great starting point for the inactive person).
Then, each day that you do even five minutes of exercise, track it. By the end of the week, you add it all up. Each week you set a new goal. Maybe it'll be the same goal repeated, maybe you'll up the ante a bit. But don't overreach yourself.
You are worth the effort it takes to acheive your goals.
With all of that out of the way, here are my goals for 2013:
1. Fit back into a size 8 and be healthy about it.
a. Work out at least two hours each week
b. Stop eating so much junk food. Eat fruits and vegetables instead.
2. Pay off the car loan.
a. Find my cheques
b. Stay within budget
c. Track spending and budget
3. Write more
a. Edit my NaNoWriMo2012 novel to readability and have people read it.
b. Continue working on the first draft of my other novel
c. Add new content to this blog and to my Helium.com profile every week.
4. Finish 3 of my university courses
a. one at a time, starting with Introductory Composition
That's all for now, folks! If you have any tips or tricks to making and sticking with goals, share them below! Also, if you have made any resolutions this year, share them and join the conversation.
Be honest with yourself, and believe in yourself.
Peace, love, and everlasting happiness.
Friday, October 19, 2012
The Meaninglessness of Labels
There is an unspoken perception in the world, a perception that affects each and every person and yet hides unnoticed.
That is the perception of labels and simplicity.
Regardless of your social status, if people see you on the street they will full on judge you based on what you're wearing.
Wearing skinny jeans and nerd glasses? Hipster.
Wearing bright colours that don't quite match and lots of jewelry? Raver.
Dressed all in black draping clothing? Goth.
Do you want to know what's interesting? You could see me on the street on any given day wearing one of these outfits, and yet I don't consider myself any of the above three labels.
The clothes you wear can certainly impact how people see you and interpret your behaviour. But clothing does not make you a label, and labels don't force you into any type of clothing.
There is no rule that says only goths are allowed to wear tacky halloween jewelry and dark clothing all the time, just as there is no rule saying that only hipsters can drink Starbucks and listen to obscure music.
You make your own labels, and you destroy them. Life isn't as simple as slapping a label onto someone and calling it official.
Life is deep, complicated, mixed up, and shaded with every colour imaginable. There is nothing simple, binary, or easy about life or about other people. There is only variances.
Break the rules, and break the labels. They mean nothing.
So what if you want to wear a baggy sweatshirt on top of your nice professional shirt? So what if you love those jeans that may have a couple of holes in them but they still fit like a dream?
So freaking what.
Dress for yourself, be honest with yourself, and accept that each person will dress in whatever they want and that doesn't make them any better or worse of a person.
Peace, love, and butterflies.
That is the perception of labels and simplicity.
Regardless of your social status, if people see you on the street they will full on judge you based on what you're wearing.
Wearing skinny jeans and nerd glasses? Hipster.
Wearing bright colours that don't quite match and lots of jewelry? Raver.
Dressed all in black draping clothing? Goth.
Do you want to know what's interesting? You could see me on the street on any given day wearing one of these outfits, and yet I don't consider myself any of the above three labels.
The clothes you wear can certainly impact how people see you and interpret your behaviour. But clothing does not make you a label, and labels don't force you into any type of clothing.
There is no rule that says only goths are allowed to wear tacky halloween jewelry and dark clothing all the time, just as there is no rule saying that only hipsters can drink Starbucks and listen to obscure music.
You make your own labels, and you destroy them. Life isn't as simple as slapping a label onto someone and calling it official.
Life is deep, complicated, mixed up, and shaded with every colour imaginable. There is nothing simple, binary, or easy about life or about other people. There is only variances.
Break the rules, and break the labels. They mean nothing.
So what if you want to wear a baggy sweatshirt on top of your nice professional shirt? So what if you love those jeans that may have a couple of holes in them but they still fit like a dream?
So freaking what.
Dress for yourself, be honest with yourself, and accept that each person will dress in whatever they want and that doesn't make them any better or worse of a person.
Peace, love, and butterflies.
Wednesday, October 17, 2012
Reading, Writing, and Halloween
Stuff that is going on right now:
-Lots of reading (John Green is my current novelist of choice, and let me tell you... phenomenal)
-Trying to write, despite the daunting and crushing pressure of my inner critic
-Making my own Halloween costume!
Life is what you make it, and right now for me it is busy. Not busy in the pretentious "oh I'm just soooo busy" but busy in the "there's a lot of things I'm working on right now and it's kind of overwhelming but satisfying at the same time" kind of way.
Which might also sound pretentious, but that interpretation is on you.
Searching out ways to tell myself that my writing is good enough is a challenge, and the thought of other people reading my fiction (as much as I WANT SO BADLY to be published) is horrifyingly scary.
Yet, how will I ever acheive it if I don't suck it up and do it?
I won't. My therapist told me the same thing. Yet, who would want to read my drabble aside from the WonderWife (who would say it's good even if she thought it was skunk-sprayed-garbage because she loves me and knows that writing makes me happy)?
Such is the trouble.
However, I am not going to let that stop me. If anyone reading this would be interested in commenting on or reviewing anything I've written (fiction or non-fiction), let me know! I need feedback to grow!
And if you want, I will return the favour by giving my honest thoughts on your creative outpouring of your soul.
As always, peace, love, and nerdtastic.
-Lots of reading (John Green is my current novelist of choice, and let me tell you... phenomenal)
-Trying to write, despite the daunting and crushing pressure of my inner critic
-Making my own Halloween costume!
Life is what you make it, and right now for me it is busy. Not busy in the pretentious "oh I'm just soooo busy" but busy in the "there's a lot of things I'm working on right now and it's kind of overwhelming but satisfying at the same time" kind of way.
Which might also sound pretentious, but that interpretation is on you.
Searching out ways to tell myself that my writing is good enough is a challenge, and the thought of other people reading my fiction (as much as I WANT SO BADLY to be published) is horrifyingly scary.
Yet, how will I ever acheive it if I don't suck it up and do it?
I won't. My therapist told me the same thing. Yet, who would want to read my drabble aside from the WonderWife (who would say it's good even if she thought it was skunk-sprayed-garbage because she loves me and knows that writing makes me happy)?
Such is the trouble.
However, I am not going to let that stop me. If anyone reading this would be interested in commenting on or reviewing anything I've written (fiction or non-fiction), let me know! I need feedback to grow!
And if you want, I will return the favour by giving my honest thoughts on your creative outpouring of your soul.
As always, peace, love, and nerdtastic.
Thursday, October 11, 2012
My Quirky Habits
So I decided to make a list of all the weird or quirky things I do for no real logical reason.
I don't really have a reason for this, I just don't take the top few. People have touched those ones, and messed them up. I like a nice clean newspaper that hasn't been sullied.
Anyways, I"m sure there are more, but that's all I can think of for now.
Do you have any quirky habits or odd routines? Do people look at you oddly when you do something that seems completely normal to you? Please share, we can rejoice in each others oddities.
Peace, love, and nerdy love!
1. When I take a newspaper from a newspaper box, I never take the top one, even if the top one is intact. I usually take the fourth one. If there is only one paper, I won't take it.
I don't really have a reason for this, I just don't take the top few. People have touched those ones, and messed them up. I like a nice clean newspaper that hasn't been sullied.
2. My closet needs to be organized in a certain way or I can't find my clothes. I will take pictures of my closet and post them at a later date.By I can't find my clothes, I literally mean that I cannot get dressed until it's fixed. I know it's weird, and I know there's no reason for it, but it's just one of those things. I don't mind having my closet organized though, and it doesn't take long to put stuff away in order, so it doesn't detriment me much.
3. I have a terrible memory, and so to help myself remember stuff, I have to write it down. Which sounds pretty average, except that it has to be hand written onto a notepad or somewhere flat.Notebooks and agendas are no good, anything easily portable does not reliably help retain brain stuff. Thanks to my smart phone, I get pop up reminders, which is great. But it doesn't have the same satisfaction of just straight up remembering stuff.
4. If I'm listening to music, I'm either singing along silently or grooving. No matter if I'm on the bus, walking up the street, or chilling at my desk at work. People look at me weird, but I just love music and grooving out.I've noticed that very few people do this. It's too bad, music is a key to the soul.
Anyways, I"m sure there are more, but that's all I can think of for now.
Do you have any quirky habits or odd routines? Do people look at you oddly when you do something that seems completely normal to you? Please share, we can rejoice in each others oddities.
Peace, love, and nerdy love!
Monday, September 24, 2012
Thoughts on nerdiness
What is a nerd? Why do people in the general population seem to think that calling someone a nerd is a huge insult? It's not. It just means that the person enjoys learning and being smart, and maybe a little bit obsessed about things.
Since when it being smart and enjoying things emphatically a bad thing?
I will be the first to confess, I am a gigantic nerd. I may not be supremely educated, but I love learning. I may suck at video games and PC games, but I love playing them. And I get ridiculously excited when the new Doctor Who episode is coming out.
Learning that all anglerfish are females is exciting to me.
Finding out what a quark is, after failing miserably to even understand basic physics in high school, is exciting to me.
And I'm not ashamed of it.
Being jump up and down excited about things is what life is about. Letting out your inner nerd and playing video games is a fun way to kill time and boost your hand-eye coordination.
Nerdiness is awesome. Nerds make things, invent things, start new trends. Bill Gates and Steve Jobs were both nerds, David Tennant is a nerd, and I am a nerd.
It is what it is, be who you are.
Peace, love, and nerd out.
Since when it being smart and enjoying things emphatically a bad thing?
I will be the first to confess, I am a gigantic nerd. I may not be supremely educated, but I love learning. I may suck at video games and PC games, but I love playing them. And I get ridiculously excited when the new Doctor Who episode is coming out.
Learning that all anglerfish are females is exciting to me.
Finding out what a quark is, after failing miserably to even understand basic physics in high school, is exciting to me.
And I'm not ashamed of it.
Being jump up and down excited about things is what life is about. Letting out your inner nerd and playing video games is a fun way to kill time and boost your hand-eye coordination.
Nerdiness is awesome. Nerds make things, invent things, start new trends. Bill Gates and Steve Jobs were both nerds, David Tennant is a nerd, and I am a nerd.
It is what it is, be who you are.
Peace, love, and nerd out.
Saturday, September 15, 2012
Looking forward each day
Looking forward to each day is an important thing to do. It is almost impossible some days to find something to look forward to, but it is essential that we treat each day as the gift it is.
Just a happy and inspirational thought for the day.
Peace, love, and geronimo!
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